Hero of War, Hero of Life

Hero of War, Hero of Life: Remembering Norris Dendy

By Kirsten Clark

Indianapolis, IN — Norris Furman Dendy, a man of quiet strength and indomitable spirit, passed away on March 11, 2024, at the age of 92. His life, marked by resilience, service, and love, left an indelible mark on those who knew him.

Born on May 31, 1931, in Clinton, South Carolina, Norris faced early adversity when his father was tragically murdered, leaving him and his brother, Young, under the guardianship of their older relatives.

“Granddaddy’s brother was really the one who pursued legal action against our granddad’s killers,” recalled Kimberly Dendy, one of Norris's daughters. “They won the civil suit but lost the criminal case unfortunately."

Despite this loss, Norris persevered. His early life was marked by resilience and talent. While being raised by their strict aunt, he and his brother learned piano, a skill that would stay with him throughout his life. At just three years old, Norris showcased his musical aptitude by playing the piano at the World’s Fair in Chicago, while his two-year-old brother, Young, sang. Eventually, they returned to South Carolina under the watchful eye of their older sisters.

In 1957, Norris married Nelcie Jane Oliver, affectionately known as Jane, and the two embarked on a life of adventure and service together. They traveled the world, living in various countries due to Dendy’s military career. Jane was the outgoing counterpart to his quiet demeanor, and together they formed a formidable team.

“Dad was a very quiet type, and my mom was the outgoing one,” said Deidra Davis, another Norris daughter. “He was even more reserved after his second tour in Vietnam, maybe even had PTSD but he was never officially diagnosed.”

Dendy's military career was marked by dedication and bravery. Despite initial doubts about his physical capabilities, he joined the Army Infantry division after college as a 1st Lieutenant. Dendy served at many locations overseas and at the Pentagon. He most notably served two tours in Vietnam, displaying exceptional leadership and courage. His family vividly recalls the anxiety and sacrifices they endured during his deployments.

“I remember after the second tour, the Army gave him R&R and he wanted my mom to meet him somewhere, but she wanted him to come home, so he could see us kids,” said Deidra. “My mom kept us out of school for one day, I think it was a Friday, to visit with our dad, and the school was furious. They marked us as unexcused absences and sent us letters of reprimand. But my mom insisted."

Dendy's military accolades include multiple awards such as the Legion of Merit, Bronze Star, Meritorious Service Medal, Air Medal, and two Purple Hearts. He was an exceptional leader who cared deeply for his soldiers. During his second tour in Vietnam, he was injured in a blast while traveling in a vehicle and was also exposed to Agent Orange, from which he suffered health issues related to the pancreas for the rest of his life.

“Dad had a quiet strength and was incredibly humble, he described the explosion incident as an ‘injury’ and nothing more,” recalls Deidra.

Norris Dendy was not only a distinguished military officer but also a brilliant intellectual. During his time at the Pentagon, he was highly sought after for his writing skills, crafting speeches and memos for generals and other command staff. His exceptional memory and proficiency in math and science set him apart.

Moreover, his passion for education led him to serve as a Professor of Military Science at Virginia State University. In this role, he not only headed the ROTC department but also served as the Senior Advisor to the College President. Norris was pivotal in initiating women into the ROTC program, marking a significant step forward in the program's history.

“He was instrumental in changing the policy at VSU to allow women to be part of ROTC there,” Deidra said. “This was in 1973 and women just weren’t permitted in those ranks until my dad came along.”

After retiring from the military as a Lieutenant Colonel out of Fort Benjamin Harrison in Indianapolis, Norris continued his commitment to education and service. He worked at Indiana Bell, now AT&T, where he contributed to technological advancements and mentored younger colleagues. His transition from military to civilian life was seamless, though adjusting to being called by his first name took some getting used to.

“A lot of people felt he was intimidating because of his Army experiences, but he had a gentle spirit,” Kim said.

Norris's legacy extends beyond his professional achievements. He was a devoted husband, father, and grandfather who cherished his family above all else. Despite the challenges he faced from time spent at war, he remained active and engaged throughout his life.

“He was very active even in old age, always walked everywhere and would never use a cane,” Megan Jeter, Norris's granddaughter, reminisced. “He also taught all us grandkids military time.”

Norris Dendy's life exemplified the values of resilience, service, and love. His passing leaves a void in the hearts of those who knew him, but his legacy of courage and compassion will continue to inspire generations to come.

“He was an American hero,” said Deidra. And indeed, Norris Dendy's life stands as a testament to the best of what it means to be one.